Technical Difficulties: Bigger Families & Better Relationships


In a nation of advancing technology, one can assume the effects that it has had on the social lives of its citizens. Though it’s now easy to communicate with others quickly and effectively, the actual value of our connections is decreasing. Its more common for relationships to be digitized, resulting in a lack of interpersonal and social cues. More people are losing their relationships to their phones, tablets and other devices. Its hard to develop organic relationships now, as phones are almost always part of dating life and getting to know people. 
 Research shows that in fact toddlers are learning to speak at a much later age, because of the effect technology has on their early relationships with family members. This is a relevant fact as speech is an essential part of communication, and today many relationships and marriages are failing because of a lack of communication skills.
Research shows that people with happy social lives are happy people, so the issue at hand is one of our nation’s satisfaction.
How can this be fixed? What can be done to help our society become more socially bolstering, and overall, happier? The key is to strike at the root of the problem and address the area where most people learn these important social skills. The family is a big part of learning to be social. Usually every person's first social interaction is done with family members, and it’s the ideal place to practice interpersonal skills for many young children. Could having more children, bigger families, help this communication epidemic?  While many couples are rejecting the idea of having many children based on the false assumptions of overpopulation or childhood success levels, can creating bigger families provide the perfect situations for creating kids into happy, social adults?


The first place children learn emotional intellect is in the family. Siblings fight, disagree and make up, and as stated before, these skills are major parts of healthy adult relationships. Having more kids can give them a chance to interact with a wider range of personalities and preferences. A big part of being social is to compromise, and the major danger to relationships is contention and disagreement. It's essential for healthy adult relationships to be able to handle disagreements well. When a child is born with no siblings, they often will not have situations where compromises are necessary, which can propagate a lack of proper disagreements. The pressure inter sibling conflicts cause give children a healthy environment to learn how to deal with them.
Babies are born inherently selfish. As they grow into children, they are forced to learn to be selfless to develop healthy human connections. Siblings are a prime example of these connections.
In June 2018, Aleteia news stated that “Children who live in large families have a much wider peer relationship. Children learn to manage their emotions in the key of “us” and not just “me.” They learn to take care of themselves but without forgetting that others also exist. Certainly these benefits are not only a good for the families but for all of society.”



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